When you’ve lost a child, holidays are just harder.
Even if Valentine’s Day was never your big holiday, you can’t help notice all the boxes of cards that hit the store, waiting to be handed out by children in classrooms all over the country. The candy hearts. The cute heart-themed baby and kid clothes.
Holidays just make your arms feel more empty.
One of the hardest parts of holidays is to go through this grieving process and to feel like no one is thinking about you or cares.
This is why it’s so important to reach out to grieving mothers and offer support throughout the year, but especially on holidays. A small, kind gesture can go a long way.
For Valentine’s Day this year, consider what you can do to show your loved one that you care.
1. Send a Meal
If you live close by, you can make your friend or loved one a meal, pick up dinner from her favorite restaurant, or take her out. She may have dinner plans on Valentine’s Day, so make sure to coordinate your plans with someone in the know.
You can do lunch together or perhaps offer to pay for their dinner.
If you’re near or far, a gift card to a favorite restaurant works well, too; she’ll feel loved, and can use the card to go out with her significant other (if that’s not you) or to bring the food to them.
You can also buy a gift card to a meal subscription service like Hello, Fresh. If they want to use it for Valentine’s Day, make sure to give this gift in advance so they can order it online in time.
2. Give a Memento
You can find a lovely gift from this company that gears their service and merchandise specifically towards those that have lost a loved one. You’ll find jewelry for grieving mothers at laurelbox. Whether you choose a forget-me-not necklace or a raw birthstone charm, your loved one will know that you are aware she is suffering, and she is in your thoughts.
The Heart to Heart jewelry dish also makes a beautiful statement and provides a place for the grieving mother to keep her important memento.
3. Try a Weighted Blanket
You wish you could be by her side whenever she needs a hug. Why not send her a weighted blanket? Wonderful for people who are suffering from anxiety and unable to sleep, a weighted blanket may be able to help your loved one in her predicament.
According to WebMD, “weighted blankets offer deep pressure stimulation, a form of touch pressure that feels like a firm hug, a massage, or swaddling. While research on weighted blankets is sparse, deep pressure stimulation has been found to calm adults and children with anxiety, autism, and attention difficulties, researchers say.”
Since loss can send anyone into a hyper state of anxiety, a weighted blanket might provide some comfort. Send the gift with a card that tells her this blanket is a hug from you whenever she needs one.
You may feel like you’re unsure of how to help your friend during this time, but you can help them by letting them know that you’re thinking of them.